Planning Date Night

Continuing to date each other while you’re in a relationship is an important part of keeping the fire burning in your relationship; however, planning and keeping them interesting can be a challenge…

There’s planning around the kids… work schedules… the kids… other life obligations… and did I mention planning around the kids?!

But it’s still something that needs to be done and with some planning and a little bit of effort you can plan date nights that are fun, spicy, and enjoyable.


The first step is to talk to your partner and make sure you’re both on the same page. Set expectations on who is responsible for planning them and recommend taking turns so that one person isn’t overwhelmed and both of you get the benefit of being surprised.

If you two handle finances separately then discuss who will pay. A simple rule can be whomever plans, pays. Make date nights a priority. Set aside specific time and put the date nights on your calendar. It shows your partner that you’re making them and your relationship a priority. Find a reliable babysitting option, along with a backup, so your plans don’t get thrown off at the last minute with babysitting issues.

Once the guidelines are set, don’t just go through the motions. Put some effort into planning and executing so that your dates are exciting and enjoyable. If you only stick with what you know then you’ll never know what you’re missing out on that you can enjoy. The internet is a great place to find date ideas and we’ll also be posting ideas here.

Finally – enjoy the process and the dates.  Dates don’t always have to be jaw-dropping, romantic affairs (although you should go all out every once in awhile on a day that isn’t a birthday or anniversary). Keep your focus on activities that gives you and your partner the chance to spend time together, connect, and reconnect.

If you have date night questions, tips, or ideas you’d like to share, email them to:

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