Building Blocks

By: Nick Campbell

What are the building blocks to a successful marriage? I know it’s subjective, but think about what makes you tick. With divorce rates hovering around 40-50 % I think it’s safe to say we should give some thought to marrying the right way. Some pretty important steps to consider? Life goals, finances, education, and many others will be like hurdles while you make your way around the track. But in pursuit of all these outside successes and material trappings we can’t forget about love.  We can have all these great building blocks to a great marriage. It may or may not prevent us from becoming a statistic because we’ve avoided the usual suspects of divorce. However, even with careful planning we have to remember that love is still the nucleus of any marriage. Material things don’t mean much in the grand scheme of things. Credit scores, financial portfolios, and other forms of wealth are great. But will they sustain your marriage? I know some will counter with the cliche of : “Love doesn’t pay the bills” and that may be true literally. But figuratively my grandparents made it thru hard times. Love didn’t pay the bills, but with my grandmother’s love and support it proved to be what my grandfather needed to endure and stay motivated during those hard times. Her love held down the home so he was able to focus on doing what was needed…..so that the bills could be paid. So let’s look at some.

 

Being baggage free is always a plus.. 

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Without resolving your issues prior to the marriage or relationship, it’s only a matter of time before you’re weighing down the relationship. It’s not only good practice, but also critical to leave these things at the door. What you’re trying to accomplish simply won’t survive until you shut that door the past right?

 

Decide how “complete” you need to be before settling down.. 

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Many people are adamant about not settling down until they’ve reached a certain height of success in life. There’s no right or wrong answer to this. It’s all about what makes you feel comfortable. Besides, define complete? Is it after the Masters Degree? PhD perhaps? Or how about after you become wealthy? Are we ever that complete? I don’t know about you, but there is always room for improvement. You mean to tell me that we cannot settle down until we’ve hit our zenith? Something to consider..

 

Consult a Financial Advisor: 

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Having your financial house in order is nothing but a plus! Consider this: Of the high divorce rates, the biggest culprit was financial beef. It’s also good practice to get an understanding of your partners financial knowledge and spending patterns. It can save you a lot of problems in the future. It will also help to avoid becoming a statistic!

 

All in all, these are just building blocks. It’s not set in stone and there is no set manual on how to obtain a perfect marriage or relationship. It’s all about the effort you put into it.. 

Till next time TRP!

~Nic

 

 

About Nick Campbell

Nick Campbell has written 163 post in this blog.

A modern day gentleman who loves to explore all aspects of relationships and discuss problems this new generation faces in love. Born and raised in the Bay Area, well traveled and cultured. Single Dad, tech connoisseur and news junkie. Drop a line if there is something you'd like discussed!