By Nick Campbell:
In a perfect world I suppose we’d be able to pick a perfect blend of lover. The same way we do our coffee right? Ready made and custom tailored to fit. It goes without saying that this will never happen. Remember, that’s in a perfect world. And we all know the world is not perfect and never will be. Since it’s not perfect, it seems pretty obvious that we’ll have to realize that people come as they are. Consider this fact: Most people develop and come into their personalities by the third grade. When dealing with adults that are far past the third grade, what’s the odds of changing them? People have a hard time developing healthy eating habits. Some can’t even make it into the gym to exercise and you think someone can change them into a perfect lover? What makes someone think they possess the skill to do something that other themselves can’t do? If you ponder on that you’ll realize the uphill battle one faces by trying to “change” someone.
Exactly how hard is it to change someone?
Well, try as you may, people are pretty set in their ways. Ask yourself if you’re capable of change. Sure, we’re all of capable of change. But the issue remains to be seen if we can actually do it. A lot of people need a change to come as a spark to them. Some can adapt to change pretty easy. For some however it comes over time. But an even more important question should be about what needs to change. We all have things about us that’d we like to change right? But at what point does the line get drawn about what should change and what others should accept? That’s an additional aspect of the issue in regards to change. But simply put it’s beyond difficult to change someone!
Reasons why you shouldn’t have to change..
If a person can’t accept you for who you are, then how happy can they truly be with you? If they can’t be happy with you in your realest more purest state, then naturally your relationship is doomed. Sometimes people aren’t even happy with themselves! So they damn sure won’t make you happy. So the hell with changing, maybe people should make a better attempt at matching up better from the gate. If you can make for a better fit with someone, there is no need for change. You’re appreciated as you are.
The poem goes like this: “If you love a flower, don’t pick it up. Because if you do it dies and it ceases to be what you loved. So if you love a flower, let it be. Love is not about possession, it’s about appreciation.”
Till next time TRP!