By Nick Campbell:

Recently on Oprah’s OWN network she debuted a documentary named “Dark Girls” to much fanfare. It’s sparked a pretty heated conversation online, but in my view that’s not always a bad thing. A conversation is much needed on topics like this. Color issue has plagued the African American for ages and has no signs of slowing down. In the case of the documentary, it tells the stories of women who are forced to endure bias due to their complexion. We all know someone who’s dealt with this to some level or degree. So with that said we can only hope to understand what they deal with. Some of us have observed it in school growing up. Others observe it even to this day in our interactions with each other in the black community. Perfect example, I have dark skinned friends and we play the dozens all the time. Does that mean we have deep rooted issues from slavery? Or that we’re torn about our respective complexion issues? It’s subjective.. Speaking of which…


How are black men affected by issues of complexion? Because we all know the running joke about “light skinned” brothas not being in anymore.


There is some merit to the question because the media has changed the direction of the conversation. The long standing joke notwithstanding, there has been a shift in public perception of what’s sexy. As it pertains to black men? Yes, you could see this shift happen. It really was about the Al B. Sure’s until Ricky came on the scene. I laugh at this myself, and amongst men it really doesn’t make us lose any sleep. We joke about it sometimes and to quote the comedian Pierre ” I know light skinned brothas ain’t in no more, but we making a comeback” To which Bill Bellamy replies: “When was ya’ll ever in?” But ironically more dark skinned brothas in Hollywood have ascended to great fame.

What about the men who fall in between?



What about the men who sit right in the middle of the debate? The ones not quite so light skinned but not so dark and don’t fall on either line of the cliché? In school a lot of young women had preferences about complexion and many still do. So if that’s the case how do men handle this issue of race and complexion? There is so much talk around media circles but no one talks much about how it affects the men. It’s not a big problem amongst men truth be told. But it’s interesting to know about how men see this complexity. (Pun intended)


Till next time TRP!







About Nick Campbell

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A modern day gentleman who loves to explore all aspects of relationships and discuss problems this new generation faces in love. Born and raised in the Bay Area, well traveled and cultured. Single Dad, tech connoisseur and news junkie. Drop a line if there is something you'd like discussed!