I’m sure you’ve heard the old saying, “Happy wife, happy life.” With personal experience, I can say it’s very true. Whether men know it or not, they don’t actually wear the pants in the family, we just LET them think they do. So, to make your marriage healthy and happy, it’s important you, as the woman, feel loved and happy in your marriage.
Here are some things I’ve learned over the years to keep a marriage happy and healthy:
Stop Saying ‘Me’ or ‘My’
My car, my home, my furniture, my money. When you’re married it should be “our” not “my.” By constantly calling things your own, it makes your spouse feel like they don’t belong in your world. While you still need to be yourself, the things in your home and your shared life shouldn’t belong to either of you but, rather, both of you.
If you have a problem with one another, don’t let your anger and frustration build and build until an inevitable blow-up. Many couples struggle with communication and instead drift apart, even getting to the point of sleeping in different rooms. For a successful and happy marriage, communication is key. Don’t be afraid to talk to your spouse, you might be surprised you have the same problems.
Remember Date Night
Couples need to reconnect, outside of the business of everyday life. Ed Young has pampered his wife Lisa for over 30 years now, and one thing he knows is to never forget a date night. In his “10 Commandments of Marriage,” he lists date night as the second most important thing in a healthy and happy relationship. Pastor Young says, “Remember the date night and keep it holy.”
Ditch the Technology
I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but so many couples have something other than children taking up all their town: smartphones. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gone to a nice restaurant, only to see more than half the couples nose-deep into their phones, rather than sustaining a conversation. The increase of digital communication has led to a decline in face-to-face communication as well as snail mail. You know, snail mail? The papers and letters you used to receive in the mailbox? Anyways, ditch the technology and make a no phones rule after 9 p.m. If it’s important enough you’ll get a call on your landline or an email. Also, try and keep the TV, tablet, computer or any other technology device out of the bedroom.
Don’t Let the Romance Fizzle Out
Intimacy is something Pastor Young speaks on with authority — with his recent book “Sexperiment: 7 Days to Lasting Intimacy with Your Spouse” he’s gotten a lot of attention for a 24-hour “bed in” with his wife Lisa on top of their Texas church, where he spent the day lying in bed with his wife answering all questions about romance, intimacy and sex. He says that many couples, particularly Christians, underplay the important benefits that sex can offer and insists that regular intimacy is vital for any happy marriage.