By Nick Campbell:
There has been much debate about which day “Jump Off” day actually falls on. Some people give their vote to Feburary 13th, the day before Valentines Day. The idea is that people who have “side pieces” will attempt to keep these jump offs happy by taking them out or doing something likewise. This somehow keeps them happy and appeased on Valentines Day. I happen to disagree with that theory for a couple of reasons. One, the 13th is just another day. How does that give any significance? I think it applies if you’re talking Christmas Eve and Christmas. But we’re talking one day here! Two, the day after seems more on point. On the actual day, people are with their main men/women. So it only fits that the following day, the 15th, people are backtracking to their jump offs to make up for not being there. Either way the day after Valentines Day can be quite dramatic for some. Many women are just finding out for the first time that they aren’t the main chick. A lot of men who juggle many women are being stretched to their limit around this time. Basically, it becomes a hot mess. But if you find yourself newly single, or you come to realize you were the side chick, then this is your time to stop celebrating!
You don’t have to be envious of other peoples relationships:
Quite simply when you’re on the outside looking in, it’s easy to assume people are living the fairy tale relationship. But we all know that isn’t the case sometimes. Besides, should it matter? How does it affect your life and your own personal relationships? That’s the question!
Is it not smarter to be single then to be in the wrong relationship?
There is nothing more empowering than realizing you’re better off single in certain situations. Imagine how many people you know who stay in bad relationships. They do so mainly to maintain the perception that they have a great relationship. They have more to prove to themselves about the relationship, but in practice it’s more about those on the outside looking in. So there is no need to be ashamed of your single status during Valentines Day.
If you want to stop celebrating the “Jump Off” holiday, then it really comes down to one thing: Stop being a jump off… Most times it isn’t hard to spot the signs of someone who sees you only as a convenience. At the same time, you have to be careful about thinking that way with people who have no bad intentions. Some of us really are that busy with careers, school and kids ETC. Just saying.. It doesn’t mean you’re being played if they have to work late.
Till next time TRP!