Between The Lines

By Nick Campbell:

If you’re not familiar with the term “Doublespeak” it basically means to deliberately disguise, distort, or reverses the meaning of words or any other communication. To say one thing while it means another. How? For example, when a woman drops that infamous line to a guy: “I don’t wanna ruin our friendship” which if you’re familiar with double speaking, you’d know this means there is no attraction. The burning question ends up being: Why not just keep it real? We’ve all heard the concerns–“Well I didn’t want to hurt his feelings” and excuses to that effect. But have you ever considered the hurt you will cause from not keeping it real? If you’re so concerned about his feelings, than it might be better to let him absorb that rejection under honesty not disguise.  Shouldn’t honesty be at a premium in today’s times?

Double-speaking can lead to a lot of confusion and honestly it’s not a good look. There is no fault in speaking what you feel, and most times a guy can take what you dish out. We’ve got the weight of the world on our shoulders, I think we can take a woman not wanting to get with us. We’re all grown and we can take it. And we’ll usually respect you for it. Especially when you’re honest with us and you can communicate that in a respectable manner. But on another note, the mad fear of the “friend-zone” must stop! Friendship is the one quality that will outlast sex in any relationship, especially marriages. Don’t believe me? Ask any married couple you know what holds their marriage together. At the end of the day it’s what’s left over and can stimulate  love better than anything. So let’s challenge ourselves to be a little more upfront and honest. Being honest doesn’t mean you have to be brutally honest. Being polite doesn’t mean you have to beat around the bush either.

Till next time TRP!

 

-Nic

About Nick Campbell

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A modern day gentleman who loves to explore all aspects of relationships and discuss problems this new generation faces in love. Born and raised in the Bay Area, well traveled and cultured. Single Dad, tech connoisseur and news junkie. Drop a line if there is something you'd like discussed!

  • If people just stated what was really on their mind there wouldn’t be a need for all the self proclaiming “Keeping it Real”.  Although a majority of people say they do, they ultimately don’t because if they did, those that speak their mind unabashedly wouldn’t stand out.