Think back to when you were 16 years old. What was your plan for your life? What did you want to be? Where did you want to live? What kind of house did you envision? Any kids or marriage?
16 is an amazing time in life. The entire world is ahead of you. We are so full of life and hope and plans. Maybe you wanted to be a doctor or an engineer or a chef. Right now three of my children are 16, 16 and 15. I love watching them live their lives. They are so focused already on what they want in life. They are working toward their goals with the realization that they could change their minds and it wouldn’t be a big deal. The one thing that I am happiest about is that they have no desire to be married or have children for a very long time. Thank God!
Now think ahead a few years to 21. Did your plan work out? Were you on the road to it? What were you doing at 21 years old? Did you make a new plan? Share it with us.
Ahhhh 21. What an age! Just finishing college? Still a student? Working a job? There’s still time to make up your mind. You’re still young and fresh. Perhaps what you wanted to do at 18 doesn’t appeal to you anymore. Maybe things just didn’t quite work out the way you intended it to. No matter what happened, regroup and start again.
Let’s move ahead to 25. A lot of us have children at this point and are either in a LTR or married. When you think back to that time what did you want for your children? Had your plans included them at that time? What would you have done different if anything at all?
If you’ve got kids now the game has totally changed. If you haven’t accomplished what you wanted to accomplish, it’s not too late! It’s just going to take a little more time and perhaps a new way to get to it. Children don’t stop your life, they just seriously alter it. They alter it in beautiful way. Perhaps you would have done something differently. Maybe you would have finished school or not gotten so heavily involved with that guy. Perhaps that girl wasn’t the best choice. It really doesn’t matter at this point. You deserve to have what you want and as long as it’s not at the cost of your children or your marriage, you should definitely go for it. As long as you have the support of your family you’ll be fine.
We’ve all had to adjust and regroup at times. What are your plans and goals for your life right now? Where do you wish you were in your life at this moment? Any regrets? Any happy choices?
Life has regrets. As sure as we live we will have them. How you handle them is the point. Everyone deserves some happiness so I hope that you make happy choices.
If the person you are right now could go back and give your 18 and 21 year old self some advice, what would it be?
I’m sure that we all have some sage and great wisdom that we could pass on. I believe that God has most of us right where He wants us and just a moment or two away from where we need to be. We just need to realize our potential the way we once did… before life happened.
“Maybe now you’ll understand that God is laughing at your plans. What will be will be” -The Foreign Exchange