Love Jones: Real or Just A Movie?

Recently, I read that women are not happy with men that they could be in relationships with because they are looking to movies for a roadmap to romance. They spoke as if Darius Lovehall didn’t exist on same level in the world outside of the movie. 
What are your thoughts on romance and movies?  Are we expecting more than what a man/woman can really give?

In all things, some people will expect more than what someone can really give.  You have to be prepared to love someone where they are.  If they don’t fit what you’re looking for, leave them be and find someone that does.  Meanwhile, work on yourself so that you can be the best you that someone else can find.

At a point in the movie, Nina went back to her ex-fiancee to clear up some “unfinished business”. Since she and Darius hadn’t called themselves a couple yet, he told her to go. We know that he didn’t want her to but he didn’t tell her not to.
How would this have been handled in real life? Do you think that it even happens this way outside of a movie?  Would you have told her to go, fellas?  Ladies, would you have gone back to see if it could be worked out?

Relationships (at their inception or even down the road) need cultivating and a great deal of that is COMMUNICATION.  Nina had listened to her homegirl which was a bad idea from the start.  You don’t test people.  Either you’re in or you are out. But you don’t play with other folks’ emotions by testing them to see what they will say or what reaction that you will invoke in them.  I think that this does happen outside of the movies.  People throw ‘relationship tests’ at others all of the time.  Typically, they fail.

Nina comes back to Chicago and sees Darius with another woman. She starts dealing with Wood. That ended badly and Darius comes to the rescue again. 
“Stomping up and down the street like somebody done stole your f*ckin bike.”  <<One of my favorite lines.  Is Darius the good guy?  She left to work out some issues and then dated his friend.  He still took her back.   How many good guys/girls have you walked away from because of a misunderstanding that you didn’t try to fix? Why?

It appears that Darius is indeed the good guy.  But then he also looks like a sucka.  In my life, I’ve never walked away from the good guy.  He’s the one that I tended to be attracted to.  Good doesn’t necessarily equate to weak.

If you could have your own Darius Lovehall or Nina Mosely, what would they be like?  Would they have any of the traits of the characters in the movie Love Jones?  Would you want to experience the quick rush of emotions that the characters shared?  Describe them.

I’ve had a few Darius’ in my life that were much like the character that Larenz Tate plays so well.  Those poetic, writing brothers that are sexy and can stimulate your mind in a way that can’t be described.  They were good while they were in my life and I am still friends with a few even now.  But I’m involved with this guy now that can’t be topped in loving me the way that he does.  Yeah.  He’s something else.  One of a kind.  No one will ever be able to have one like him.  Yall can call him Mr. Turner.  I call him husband.

 

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Angel Mo has been happily married for over 10 years and is the mother of 5 wonderful children. She loves seeing others happily in love, whether it is with a significant other or with oneself. She believes that love, understanding and acceptance of your own person is the foundation of a lasting relationship. You can email her at angelmo@relationshipplaybook.com

  • Inspired Soul

    Q: At a point in the movie, Nina went back to her ex-fiancee to clear up some “unfinished business”. Since she and Darius hadn’t called themselves a couple yet, he told her to go. We know that he didn’t want her to but he didn’t tell her not to.
    How would this have been handled in real life? Do you think that it even happens this way outside of a movie? Would you have told her to go, fellas? Ladies, would you have gone back to see if it could be worked out?

    A: I wouldn’t have told him period! Do my thing. After all we were just kicking it.

    Q: Nina comes back to Chicago and sees Darius with another woman. She starts dealing with Wood. That ended badly and Darius comes to the rescue again.
    “Stomping up and down the street like somebody done stole your f*ckin bike.” <<One of my favorite lines. Is Darius the good guy? She left to work out some issues and then dated his friend. He still took her back. How many good guys/girls have you walked away from because of a misunderstanding that you didn’t try to fix? Why?

    A: Nina messed up. As a girl I wouldn't do that. Dating more than once from the same circle is nonsense.

    Q: If you could have your own Darius Lovehall or Nina Mosely, what would they be like? Would they have any of the traits of the characters in the movie Love Jones? Would you want to experience the quick rush of emotions that the characters shared? Describe them.

    A: I wouldn't mind such a mind blowing attraction. I've already experienced it. but a Darius Lovehall, no thanks. And I won't be a Nina Mosley either. They are a total mess.

  • Anonymous

    Movies don’t ruin relationships, peoples concepts ruin relationships.