Facing Reality

Dear Relationship Playbook

 

My question is this…..if a man tells you he don’t want to be in a relationship with you however, they keep telling you they love you and they are with sumone else but continue to sleep with u and get help from u via..money. or whateva but the moment u try to convince them that they still have feelings for u they lash out and flip everything on u as if ur the one thts holdn on to them..all the while they with sumone and don’t seek help from them….

I’m Askn this..because…I have a baby by a fan and one on the way by him also and we broke up abt a year but it like we never did bc we were still involved thts how the other baby cums into play but he denies being with me bc he don’t want to face reality

Reality Check Ahead

My thoughts

It doesn’t look like he has any problem accepting reality, but it seems that YOU DO.

How much more real can he be than by saying he doesn’t want to have a relationship with you?! I don’t know this man so I can’t say whether or not he truly loves you, but what I will say is

Will WavvyWhat’s love got to do with it?

Saying, “I love you”, is not the same thing as saying, “I want to be in a relationship with you”. It never has been and never will be. But when someone says, “I don’t want to be in a relationship with you”, it means I don’t want to be in a relationship with you.

Let’s role play, I’ll be him.

 

If you want to give me money, I’ll gladly take it. Mama didn’t raise no fool, AND we’re in a recession? Maaaan please. Why should I ask my woman for help, when you’re so willing to kick in? I can still be the man to her and use MY money to treat her since YOUR money goes to my bills, but guess what? I still don’t want to be in a relationship with you.

If you want to keep giving me some ass in hopes you can screw me into a relationship, by all means knock yourself out trying. I’ll enjoy getting my dick wet, especially when you’re on standby when my girlfriend is getting on my nerves or is on her period, but guess what? I still don’t want to be in a relationship with you.

What, you’re pregnant?! Again? Well, I guess that’s what happens when you let me hit it raw even though you know I’m having sex with someone else – the woman I DO want to be in a relationship with. I know you were probably hoping that us having a second child would make a difference, but guess what? I still don’t want to be in a relationship with you.

That’s what the REALITY is. Anything else you try to make it out to be in your head is fantasy. In general you hear a lot of women say, “Why do men lie. If they’d just tell me the truth, I’d be OK with it.”

Well he’s told you the truth and the truth is he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you.

Believe him.

WW

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My life is dedicated to educating and empowering others to make healthy relationship choices. I write about, and answer questions about relationships in my never-ending quest to help people stay in love long after they've fallen in love.