A Father’s Love is the true story of a father’s battle to be a part of his son’s life. You can read access all of the chapters in the Table of Contents.
I don’t know why my case was scheduled on Monday and the judge was switched, but my fears were unfounded. The judge read what we both desired in our parenting plans, my response to the social worker’s report, and finally the social worker’s report (apparently the report is sealed until the hearing). He then spoke to both of us…
We’re going to address each section of the parenting plan separately. I’ll read what each of you wants, see if you two can’t come up with an agreement, and if not then I’ll make the final decision.
The judge went through each aspect of the plan and to my surprise, the judge ruled in my favor in all aspects of my parenting plan. I don’t even see it as him ruling in my favor, but ruling in Isaiah’s favor. In my plan, I took into account what Camille wanted and what I needed and came up with a compromise simply because it was never about me or her – at least not to me.
In a perfect world, after the hearing I would’ve rode off triumphantly into the sunset with no more issues from Camille, but this isn’t a fairy tale, it’s the real world and in the real world, I still had difficulties with Camille over the next couple of years. Remember a parenting plan is simply a guideline for those to follow that choose to. Things were easier, but still more difficult than they needed to be, but through it all I stayed focused on my love for Isaiah and that focus has gotten us where we are today.
It took about a year or so after that final court hearing for Camille to finally “get it” but the important thing is that she got it and honestly I couldn’t ask for anything more from his mother in terms of our parental relationship. We discuss and handle things regarding Isaiah as we should. We’ll have conversations and laugh about things he’s done or doing… refrain from making major decisions without discussing with each other first – it’s how it should’ve always been.
Am I going to forget what I went through? Of course not. What I missed out on, can never be replaced and she was responsible for that. However, because of my love for Isaiah, I will never lose sight of who she is. I can’t say I love him and will do whatever I need to do as a parent for him and yet hold hatred and wish harm for the single most important person in his life.
As difficult as it may be at times, if you keep your focus on your child and not his other parent; more often than not, things will work out as they should.