Life is Simple, it’s Humans That Make it Complicated

By Basee Saka

Watching some wildlife recently, justifies that statement. Sitting still in a park and watching what was going on in the area showed the big difference between humans and other creatures.

The birds were well aware of the other inhabitants of the vicinity, and though mindful of their safety went about their daily activities collecting twigs and leaves to make a home and foraging for food. They would land precariously close to dogs, people and other birds, yet not seem to be bothered by them. Lizards ran around stopping still every so often to scope out the area and sniff at the air before moving swiftly on to the next spot: the bees flying from flower to flower, checked out the pollen availability and didn’t spending too much time in any one spot.

Each of them aware of their strengths and ability and confident they would be safe. A sudden movement would have them scurrying off in another direction only to resume what they were doing, out of harm’s way. They didn’t appear afraid, just mindful. They didn’t appear to be fixated on any one potentially harmful situation; just simply noted them, almost kept one eye on them while they busied themselves. How simple is that?

All creatures are aware of what is harmful to them. Some are more at personal risk than others. Some have physical defence mechanisms and others just have quick reflexes that will get them out of harm’s way. They each have the necessary tools to meet the demands their existence puts on them. It is amazing why some birds choose to walk across a road rather than fly. Maybe they know that on occasion there are particles of food in the road and it’s worth the risk of getting squashed by a passing vehicle, in order not to miss out on some tasty morsel. Whatever it is they are thinking, fear doesn’t dictate their actions.

It is that fear that differentiates a simple existence and a difficult one.

Humans develop a fear of ‘if’. If I apply for a job, I might not get it, then I will be disappointed. So I won’t apply for the job and save myself from disappointment. If I talk to that person they may ridicule me and I’ll be embarrassed so I won’t approach them, and save myself the embarrassment. If I get married and it goes badly, I’ll end up being divorced and feel like a failure. So I won’t get married and save myself the hassle.

However, if I don’t get a job, I’m going to have to get an income from somewhere. If I try to start up my own business, it might fail and I’ll be in debt, so I won’t do it and save myself from being in debt. If I speculate on the stock market with what little I do have, I might lose it, so I best keep what I have until it’s finished and see what turns up in the mean time. I won’t be able to go on holidays and make use of the facilities around me because that would use up my resources.

The way a lot of people get on in life is networking, but if I’m not prepared to approach people they won’t know I’m here and I won’t know who could help me.

Family is often the one motivator that spurs people into action to achieve. That achievement raises self esteem and builds emotional security. If you don’t get married and just have one relationship after another, then there is no sense of ‘family’, no sense of family, no motivation, no motivation, no achievement, no achievement, low self esteem and emotional insecurity.

So what is fuelling this fear? It’s not knowing what our strengths are and not being confident that the tools we have are able to meet the needs of our existence. Pigeons don’t look at hawks and think, ‘well I don’t have claws and a beak like his so I won’t be able to feed myself’. All they know is that they have a beak and need to eat so they had best use the beak they have and go look for some food. A hawk isn’t going to be found foraging for crumbs when he knows he can catch mice and other rodents. Yet they are both birds and inhabit the same skies and trees.

As humans it would benefit us to accept who we are, be mindful of our environment and utilise the tools we have to make the most of the life we have. The more we practice using our tools, the more confidence we instil in ourselves and the more competent and successful we become.

Being able to read, use our hands, communicate verbally and possessing the skill of reasoning, are excellent tools, which afford each one of us the opportunity to be productive individuals. We have varying levels of competency with each of these tools but we all have at least one tool that we can use almost effortlessly. It is identifying that tool and capitalising on it that will start the journey to being ‘fearless’ and living an uncomplicated life!

About BaseeSaka

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Having experienced most relationship issues, from dating, cohabiting and parting ways, to long distance relationship, ‘near misses’ and heartbreak; I feel that my years have been filled experiences. Experiences that I am inclined to describe as positive. You can email her at: basee@relationshipplaybook.com