Here’s an old blog I wrote before dealing with suicide Prevention. Angel told me a LOOOOOONG time ago to share this. Feel Free to pimp this out or use it how you see fit.
Though I really don’t care to relive the day I almost took my own life, a good friend convinced me that my experience may somehow help someone else.
So in getting to the point, I’m going to blog about it.
I feel – and this is just me – that the way I felt on that day….I would have killed myself. Just being real about it.
So….here’s things that you can do to hopefully keep a person from finding a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
Let the person feeling that way get out their thoughts. Don’t talk. I would not have wanted you to say anything because in my mind, you didn’t listen to a damn thing I just said and you reaffirmed my reasoning to end my life. Most people who are contemplating suicide think no one is listening to what they have to say. when you speak….we think you’re not listening. Remember….God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason.
Don’t assume. Never assume that a person is not capable of what they say they will do. The mind state of the individual is not normal….trust me. Also don’t assume that a person isn’t thinking about doing it because they are always in a good mood. Depression is never the same for anyone especially in males. They [males] feel somewhat ashamed that they are feeling the way they do. They put on a mask of confidence. The best way to tell if someone is going to end their life is being able to recognize the warning signs. Sudden change in mood, diet changes, giving away personal possessions, and a myriad of other signs. Educate yourself on suicide and depression.
Keep religion to an absolute minimum. More often than not, that person is in a very blasphemous mood. Do not incite that anger by mentioning God or religion. If they say something negative about about God or religion, do not….I repeat, do not tell them they are wrong and shouldn’t speak that way about the Lord. Keep your personal convictions to yourself. Remember, it’s important to let them get out their feelings. That shows your willingness to listen.
Suggest they seek professional help from a psychiatrist or a pastor. Let them find out the driving force of these emotions. Suggest that the person seek therapy. Some things he/she just don’t feel comfortable talking about with you. If you sense that don’t ask if they want to talk to someone else. That gives off the impression that you aren’t willing to listen and it tells them that you think they have a problem. By suggesting that they speak with someone, you enable them to mull it over but keep communication open with you.
These are not meant for you to play hero, but suggestions that you can use to hopefully prevent a suicide.
I will not be held liable if these don’t work.
The one thing you have to realize is that someone contemplating suicide already has their mind made up.
The potential is great for him/her to go through with it. All in all, just be a friend to the person.